As an ally, you will have hard discussions with various people in your life, and it will be uncomfortable.
Learn strategies to take with different demographics of people that will help you meet them where they are at.
Disclaimer:
The suggestions in each of these sections are not to be considered “right” or “wrong,” nor are we attempting to create a divisive rhetoric. These responses were constructed in response to demographics of people in our personal lives that we have had conversations with about Black Lives Matter.
Answer the question,
”Who am I having a conversation with?”
Millennials
The largest, most diverse generation to date, but while we see the tide turning to more tolerance and inclusivity, bad news: there is such a thing as a racist millennial.
Baby Boomers
Maybe we’re starting to realize that “Okay, Boomer” is a tad bit bitchy? These are likely your parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles. Or, maybe it’s even you. Conversations with Baby Boomers are extremely important, and will be difficult sometimes.
People at Work
Your work friends can be a tricky bunch to navigate, right? It’s important to remain professional, and remember that sometimes a discussion warrants a little visit to HR if things are inappropriate, racist, etc.
Religious People
Sometimes people hide behind a religion as the source of their racism. That’s not okay. Especially since most, or all, religions preach loving thy neighbor.
Children
The coolest thing about kids is that they are open-minded sponges. Talking to kids like they are smart (which they are!) and like they matter (which they do!) is the key. It might seem like it’s not an important place to start, but it is. Not only are they the future, but they are watching and listening to all of this, too. Honesty, empathy and compassion are the way to go with everyone, but especially with kids.
Grandparents
Very likely either a Boomer or a Conservative, or both!
Conservatives
Humanity should be a universal thread. Appeal to the humanity of the people you speak with. Especially since they are likely members of your friends and family circles. The best place to start is with what you have in common. Common ground is a safe space.
Police Officers